The Day after Father's Day

This year's Father's Day was understandably different for me.  My Dad passed away just 3 weeks ago.  His life (and his passing) is still very fresh in my mind.

I had several people text me, and post on my FB wall that they were praying for me, and that they understood that this would be a tough Father's Day.  I really appreciated the thoughts and prayers.  I really needed just that.  I really felt like I was going to do ok, but then during a church service yesterday, (and I was on stage at this exact moment) my Pastor said "perhaps this is your first Father's Day without your Father" as he was greeting the congregation, and I almost lost it.  That was me.  Trying to hold it together.

Then for the next few songs, there were moments of struggle.  Had to drop off the mic cause I was getting choked up.  I miss my Dad.



The last 3 weeks have been very hard.  My wife has been in Mozambique, Africa for a planned mission trip.  She left the day after we buried my Dad.  I am glad she went because of the work that they did, and how much she enjoyed it.  I wouldn't have changed it for the world.  

It was just a little tougher without her here.  She is such a wonderful support for me when I need it, and not having that support was hard.  In addition, it's taken all that I have to help take care of my Mom, continue to work, find childcare for the kids, sell and ship all my Dad's medical equipment, and lead a Monday night group.

I am glad she's back.

So...I am picking up the blog about my Dad, and who he was, and the life he led.   Stay tuned...

My Dad

Many of you have head that news that my Father, Ben Cordes, passed away early Sunday morning.  After a 3 year battle with ALS, he went home to be with Jesus.  We are so thankful for the many friends and family that showed up this week to show support and love to the family.  We were blown away with the support from The Fellowship at Cinco Ranch.  From Food, to just hanging out and letting us talk about Dad, you guys were amazing.  Thank you.  The thing I most took away from this week, was that my Dad was special to so many people.  He lived his life to the fullest, and at the end of it, made a decision to follow Christ.  For that, I am SO thankful.  I would NOT be celebrating his life like I am today if he hadn't.  My grieving: OUR grieving would look so much so much harder.  We WILL see him again!

For now, this picture sums up perfectly, who my Dad was, and how he choose to live his life.  I am going to be doing a series telling different stories of my Father's life.  I hope you will subscribe to this blog to read the stories, and get to know this man like we knew him.

Also, as soon as I left the hospital, I began to think, "how can I use my gifts to honor my Father?".  Immediately, I began making plans to put together a video with pictures of his life, and music that I heard over and over again as a kid; playing from his 8 track player in his truck.

My Dad loved music, and passed that love onto me.  So grateful for that.  He understood how music could move you, bring back a memory, describe to joy of a season.  He felt it.

Never have I been to a memorial in a church that had such a personal feel.  We wanted to make it, SO Ben Cordes.  For the Pre-Service House Music, here was the playlist.

1.  Up Around The Bend, CCR.

2.  The Heart of The Matter, Don Henley

3.  Hold My Hand, Hootie and the Blowfish

4.  Late For The Sky, Jackson Browne

5.  With A Little Help From My Friends, Joe Cocker

6.  Running On Empty, Jackson Browne

7.  Take The Highway, Marshall Tucker Band

8.  A Whiter Shade of Pale, Procol Harum

Without further adieu.  The video tribute, to Ben Cordes.